Rick what are your thoughts about an unfaithful spouse who doesn't grieve in an emotionally visible way over the pain they caused their hurt spouse. Verbally the words of compassion are present, when the subject is brought up by the hurt. But the unfaithful is not taking a lead role in the recovery of the couple, they seem to be more private and individualistic in doing their recovery work. Why could this be? Should it be different?

Rick do you have any insight as to why a woman would feel men are only interested in her for sexual reasons? To the point where she does not make eye contact with men because she feels it's sending them the wrong message. There is a history of sexual abuse, although she's gone through years of counseling. She feels as though men see something in her that they don't in other women, like she's a target, or has some sort of vibe she sends out to men. Is that possible? What confuses and upsets her also is she admittedly feels a sort of high from the attention she gets from the these men.

Rick, Does there ever come a point in recovery for someone who has sex/love addiction tendencies where that "pull" feeling goes away. I guess "pull" means temptation? Or is that just part of the rest of your recovery? I know you say temptation does not define us, but it feels like betraying just to feel tempted towards something you know it totally self-destructive and selfish. Can we ever really change 180 degrees 100% of the time?

Rick, In your experience would you say that two very prominent catalysts to having an affair would be undiagnosed depression and/or anxiety? Since affairs (even if you are not a sex addict) create similar feelings to using drugs?