Q&A Do You Have Any Recommendations for Communicating My Needs?

Do you have any recommendations for communicating my needs for restoring trust to my unfaithful husband? We are 10 months out from discovery of a type 2 affair that went on for 4 months. We completed EMSO in February and were feeling hopeful regarding the possibility of recovery, but when I began to struggle with triggers just a few weeks later, he would either leave or get very defensive. We have been separated since D-Day. Over the last 10 months, he has gradually changed all of his passwords so that I cannot log in to his email or bank accounts. I don't necessarily think it is because he is hiding something; I truly believe that it is because he fears being controlled. We have tried 2 different marriage therapists with no success because he gets defensive, full of rage, and walks out. His answers to my questions about porn use and the affair are extremely vague and defensive. I believe that he is now just wanting to forget the past and start again without really dealing with the past...which is not an option for me. Do you think some type of intervention is necessary at this point?