Q&A How Can I Accept This Reality and Let Go? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: John and Leslie, I've heard many times that for betrayed spouses, the lies are harder to get over than the actual infidelity. I don’t feel that way. 13 months past discovery. We completed EMSO. We both receive individual counseling and will start couples counseling this week. My husband took responsibility for his adultery, and never implicated or blamed me for his actions. He has worked diligently on his personal growth and transformation, making restitution and earning my trust. This facilitated my recovery. But knowing that my husband repeatedly joined his body with another woman's, intermittently over the course of 13 years hurts me deeply. We were virgins, and the loss of the purity is something I continue to wrestle with, since it is gone forever - I've had 1 sexual partner; he's had 2. In my alone moments, this is what I grieve. Though I understand my husband operated out of a faulty state of mind, I find the sexual betrayal so personal. It all still seems surreal, over a year later. A scripture that gives me hope is Psalm 71:20-21 "Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up. You will increase my honor and comfort me once more." Can you help me further deal with and accept this particular reality? How do I heal in this area, and let go? I am so thankful for your presence, compassion and wisdom. Sections: Leslie and John's callsRL_Category: Emotional RegulationFind HopeIntrusive ThoughtsTrauma of InfidelityRL_Media Type: Video
