Q&A How Can I Be Passionate with My Spouse Again?

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I've been really wrestling with a mood I can't shake lately. Although D-Day was two years ago, and I've forgiven my husband for the infidelities I'm aware of, and I've taken the wonderful Harboring Hope course for betrayed spouses, which has been so healing, I've been terrified at the thought I may never truly enjoy making love with my husband again. In the beginning I gave myself to him, without reservation, hoping it would be another tie that binded us. But lately, it's been an act of faith, to be with him in the bedroom. My passion is just gone. I feel unable to make any effort to be creative, nor can I fully let go and be exposed to my husband, or perform certain activities. A picture or thought of him with one of his affair partners always flashes in my mind, making it hard to relax. The fact that he is so much better in bed now, than before merely highlights the fact that he was starving me sexually and feeding others. I still do not feel like we make love. I realize the Lord can heal, bind up, and restore us, but in the meantime, how do I get out of this rut, and try to move forward in lovemaking with my spouse. Uninhibited? He was unfaithful when I was pregnant, and that is something nom working hard, still to forgive.



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