Q&A How Do I Deal With His Advice without Feeling He Is Criticizing Me?

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My husband had three affairs with family friends over a 20 year period. He tells me that he knows the affairs weren’t my fault but he has also said my lack of communication left him feeling unloved and unappreciated. It is 23 months since D-Day and even though we have been separated all this time we are now talking and trying to work through this. I have had some struggles with my job and being alone. I have tried to open up to him and share my doubts and fears about my life now. He offers suggestions on how I can work to make my life better and he also tells me it is my choice to be happy. I wish he would just listen to me. His suggestions are so frustrating due to the fact that i feel he didn’t take his own advice when he chose to have the affairs. How do I deal with his advice without feeling he is criticizing me? Am I wrong for just wanting him to listen?



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