I feel like I'm constantly somehow right back to the discovery. I've been with my husband for 40 years now, high school sweethearts, that doesn't sound sweet anymore! He has disclosed very little and he says he's done with the affair partner but I'm not really sure that is the truth. He says I'd use the affair information against him, and he's wanting sex, or giving constant innuendos and I just am not a great receiver of them, because I don't feel I trust that it's just not about his own satisfaction, and this is our biggest hurdle and fight starter.