Q&A How Long Should I Stay and Work on the Relationship before Leaving?

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I was wondering if there can be advice given regarding how long I should stay and work on the relationship, or when it is time to move on. I am the betrayed spouse in my relationship with my boyfriend of five and a half years. I found out about four months ago that he was cheating. Since then, he tells me he is committed to me and making things work and improving the relationship. However, there have been certain times where events happened where I found out he was deceptive or lied. He owns up to it and apologizes and always wants to continue on in the relationship. I’m not sure whether to leave or stay and keep fighting for the relationship. I’m currently in the Harboring Hope course and we go to couples therapy.



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