Q&A Is It Appropriate to Abstain from Sex until Safety and Emotional Intimacy Have Been Established?

Submitted by Leslie_Hardie Wed, 01/20/2021 - 10:11

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Sex has become nothing more than the physical act with my spouse and I worry it sends the message that we are doing good in our recovery. Is it appropriate to abstain from sex until safety and emotional intimacy have been established? I do not feel safe right now due to recent lies, defensiveness, just wanting me to just get over it.

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I would highly recommend giving this a try.
 
-D, Texas