We are one year out from the initial D-day and are both committed to make the marriage work. He had a 2 year affair with a prostitute, spending large sums of our retirement savings on dinners, hotels and her. We have attended EMS Online and he has completed Hope for Healing. As I am working through Harboring Hope I have discovered just how much we have lost as a couple. I am finding it difficult to re-write the past. I feel like I don’t know him at all. How could he do something so hurtful for so long. I feel like I am going backwards.