Today is the 10 month anniversary from D-Day. My question is; is it possible to have significantly recovered at this point in healing? I'm in Harboring Hope and I feel that much of the material we are going over is things we have already went through. Because my wife is so remorseful and ashamed of what she has done and is trying really hard to fix herself, we are further along than most. I'm focused on healing me plus being very patient with the process. If you would have asked me before D-Day what I would have done if I found out she had been unfaithful, I would have said that the marriage was over, no doubt. Interestingly, my response was anger and patience all at the same time. We have been married 49 years which may be playing a significant part in our recovery. Our children and adults, our finances are set and at 73 years young, much of life is behind us. How do you see a situation like our as it differs from younger people with children at home?