Q&A Is it Time for Me to Give Up if She Doesn't Commit to Recovery?

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9 months since D-Day. We've gotten some help, but my wife was reluctant. I'm currently going through HH materials. Things have improved and our relationship has stabilized. However, despite appearances, my wife is still ambivalent. She acknowledges that we are not where we need to be, but that she's "not there yet". My wife has expressed interest in doing EMSO, but would rather do it at a more convenient time. She's busy and though I can appreciate that, getting help and getting us through recovery is not a priority for her. It feels like rejection despite our progress. I can't accept just "surviving" after everything I've been through. I don't want our marriage if it's to be forever crippled because she won't seek help for herself or us. I'm focused on my own recovery much more than hers, but I feel like I'm just getting more to the point where I'm ready to move forward without her because she can't give me what I need to stay invested in our marriage - and that's a commitment to helping us heal and move forward into a deeper relationship. Yes, we're in a better place than we were a year ago, but I can't live in this place much longer because it's painful and I feel like we're both vulnerable at this stage. I don't know what God is calling me to do here, but I feel like giving up and moving on. Thoughts?



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