Ten years ago, I caught my husband in multiple affairs. He denied his infidelity for over two years, then promised to fight for our marriage when I told him that I wanted a divorce. I agreed to stay but insisted that we get counseling. I tried to set boundaries to help me feel safe and to attempt to trust him again, but he ignored my requests. Also, my husband's job requires travel several weeks at a time, and he is rarely home. I continue to struggle with overwhelming fear and imagery that often leaves me in a state of depression. A few months ago I filed for divorce, and when I presented him with papers, he pleaded that I give him two months to prove that our marriage was his priority. Ironically, the next day he left for his job on the road. He drives many hours to be home on weekends, and he's been especially kind to me which has only created more confusion and guilt. To my knowledge, he still has not started counseling. We are well beyond the two months that he asked for, and I feel just as unsafe as I did the day of discovery. I feel that divorce is my only option now, but would be willing to fight one last time if he quit his job and started counseling immediately. Is this ultimatum unreasonable?