Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Separation?

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My husband has been addicted to porn, he guesses, since his youth. We have been married for 35 years and I began the stream of discovery and relapse about 8 years ago. Each time he would repent and be accountable with software and the same few friends. The last few months he again had relapsed but this time I found out that he had been privately texting with a young woman that was living with us to escape a sexually abusive situation. We became her "safe house". The private texting began pretty soon after she moved in. This frightened me so much because she was very vulnerable. Therefore, we made strict boundaries of her never being alone with any man in our house and especially my husband, and no private meeting or communications for her own safety and everyone's integrity. They all agreed. I asked him to leave. He is presently living next door in another property across the street from where he works, not a lot of change or sacrifice or expense. Is my asking him to leave ok? I felt it is the only consequence that is different from all the other times. Most of your information has the spouse still in the house. I am very ambivalent about the marriage at this stage and when he is with me. He seems that way too. He doesn’t seem the least bit upset by what he's done to me. Can you please give me separation advice? I would like to stay separated at least till I've done some healing through this course.



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