Q&A What Can I Do to Keep These Triggers from Impacting Me so Much?

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I’ve gotten through the course material in Harboring Hope and my spouse is working on recovery of his own individual therapy and in Hope for Healing. However, triggers and intrusive thoughts seem to be a constant source of pain for me. Some of it comes from things like TV shows or movies we watch together and sometimes songs, but they also come from things he does and says that are repeats of things he has done and said with his affair partner. I’ve read emails between them and it’s painful when he says or does things with me he also did with her. It can destroy my mood and put me in a funk for hours or even days. What do I do to get through this? I do not see it easing up and it’s been about six months since our last D-Day, but his infidelity and cheating is something I’ve had to deal with for many years. Does it ever go away? What can I do to keep these triggers from impacting me so much?



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