My husband has, for the most part, been trying his best to make me feel comfortable with him since the affair ended and then I uncovered the truth. The problem is that since he has told me nothing ("I don't want to hurt you"), I don't know what signs of trouble to even look for, or even if this was his first affair. Because he was always a beloved leader and supervisor, every couple months, people, usually females, from his past will touch base and say 'hi'... sometimes when things in their lives are going badly. I don't think he deletes or hides anything and everything is above board and friendly, but it makes me fear that maybe there is more to the story than I know. After all, I was completely blind to his affair with my "best friend" for somewhere between one and five years. I have no reason to call him out on these mundane conversations, but they hurt... especially when they usually take place after bedtime and occasionally take place when we've already had an awkward day. What questions should I even be asking?