What do you do if your unfaithful spouse refuses to fully disclose everything to you, the betrayed spouse? I realize that we don’t need to hear every specific detail, but what do we do when the only time something is revealed is if we discover it ourselves? This has resulted in me feeling knocked down over and over again with the same cycle of discovery, halfhearted apology or deflection instead, and then being told by my unfaithful spouse that I need to either decide to trust him or leave him because I’m holding us back.