I heard you discuss this in one of your other videos and I think that may have happened with my husband. I felt that his inability to end the 5 month affair even though he said he tried numerous times was a result of him being emotionally attached but he has tried to explain how he just couldn't do it. And was relieved when I found out because he was finally able to end it for real. There was no ambivalence or teetering and I can say for certainty that it ended once I knew. I also should add that this was an affair that was built on major manipulation from his narcissistic AP. It started as a drunken (on his part, she decisively stayed sober) one night stand that induced major shame in my husband that was used to the AP's advantage. Please explain inability to detach more. I have feared that he truly cared for her and that's why he couldn't really end it. But inability to detach matches his explanations of how hard it was for him to end the vicious cycle.