A few of us have been grappling with the issue of the AP being a neighbor, a best friend, a long time social friend, etc, and we have been discussing over the betrayed wall. It is all very difficult for many of us to heal and focus on recovery when we are reminded daily of the AP...the neighborhood, the gym, the grocery store, the school our children attend and sometimes even church. Thank goodness church is the ONE place I know I won't run into her. We are 10 months out from Dday, and I was wondering if there are any tips or suggestions you might have for dealing with the constant triggers and reminders of the affair since the AP in entangled into so many aspects of our lives. Outside of relocating, which I have actually contemplated, she is and will be a party of our "environment" for a long, long time.