Q&A How Do I Handle Triggers When the Affair Partner Is Entangled into Many Aspects of Our Lives?

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A few of us have been grappling with the issue of the AP being a neighbor, a best friend, a long time social friend, etc, and we have been discussing over the betrayed wall. It is all very difficult for many of us to heal and focus on recovery when we are reminded daily of the AP...the neighborhood, the gym, the grocery store, the school our children attend and sometimes even church. Thank goodness church is the ONE place I know I won't run into her. We are 10 months out from Dday, and I was wondering if there are any tips or suggestions you might have for dealing with the constant triggers and reminders of the affair since the AP in entangled into so many aspects of our lives. Outside of relocating, which I have actually contemplated, she is and will be a party of our "environment" for a long, long time.



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Hello, I am currently enrolled for Harboring Hope and I am in week 9. This Q&A topic hit the nail on the head for me. Frequently in HH you give a betrayed men's perspective on things. Do you have any insights on this message? The scenario that has played out for me has resulted in that I enrolled into a mental health outpatient program for depression and anxiety. My feelings from betrayal fear, and hurt had become so internalized that I had gotten to a very dark place. Medication is helping, but the situation won't be changing anytime soon. Thanks in advance.

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