I believe we had a happy marriage when a woman started working on winning my husband as she had done with other men before him. It started emotionally. We separated when the affair became physical as he was sure he had found his soul mate in her in the fog of his deception but soon realized he wanted out. Now 8 months into the physical affair, he has tried many times to make the break. He has told me when he left me he decimated his soul and can't seem to reorient himself. He wants to fix our marriage and family, and heal himself, but I believe has become hopeless. I can see there are a whole bunch of tools he hasn't been privy to that Affair Recovery offers, hence why he's failed thus far. His solution is to join the army to try break away from the affair partner and fix himself. He has become a shell of himself since the affair began, drinking, gambling, suicidal, depressed and I believe involved with a number of other women. He battled with porn addiction our whole marriage. I say battled, he seriously tried to fight it and despised it. Do I need to let him go to a further rock bottom, sort himself and then return to our marriage, or do I take the "risk" emotionally and do ems online with him knowing he may do it if I am emotionally invested in it as well?