Q&A Why Is the Wayward Spouse Continuing to Justify Their Actions?

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After 14 years of marriage with five young children, my husband disclosed an ongoing affair and his plan to leave me to be with her. I was blindsided and had never suspected anything. Seven weeks later he walked out and moved directly in with her. I waited over a year from that point before giving an ultimatum for him to choose between leaving her home to see what we could work through with our marriage and choosing to stay with her. I let him know if he wouldn't leave her home I would then be filing for divorce. I gave him three additional weeks to decide and on the deadline date he told me he would not be leaving her. I finally filed for divorce a few weeks ago and am waiting for his response to the petition. He has now been living with her, and her two children for the past 13 months, and the new baby they had together back in September. He has told me that this isn't a "wrong" decision, just a "different one." He has also told me he knows I think he is "living in darkness" and just needs to find truth/light, but he just doesn't "see it that way." He says he prays but doesn't hear God telling him any different. How does a person who states he believes in God and the truth of the Bible continue to justify these choices? I just don't understand. I am hurting and so are my children. How could he continue to deny us, stating he isn't doing anything wrong?



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