Q&A Why Would He Make a Decision to do This?

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Dear Leslie and John, My husband has had two emotional & physical affairs over the past four years. He broke one off right after Dday and continued one while fake reconciling with me. Now the continued affair has stopped. We were invited to a wedding of his acquaintance/friend on November 11th. His ex-AP that he broke it off with after Dday(the “less chosen” AP) is really close friends with the groom and is actually officiating the wedding. (Weird…some kind of online certification and she clearly doesn’t value marriage in any way) We were not planning to attend as it would be awkward. Her husband doesn’t know about their affair. Now my husband and I are going to separate the first weekend of November so he decided that he is going to attend the wedding reception alone. Maybe I shouldn’t care about this, but I do. Would you? It doesn’t seem like a wise decision. Why do you think he would put himself in this position? How can that not be awkward for both of them? Is it possible for them to be friends at this point and not threaten her marriage and family? Do you think they will get some strange thrill dancing on the same dance floor as her husband? Does this seem risky to you? Does this seem like something a man who is “so sorry” would do? I think she would be open to restarting the affair but don’t have any proof of that. Advice? Thanks!



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