My husband has had 30 years of porn addiction, multiple emotional affairs and one physical affair 2 years ago, so really our whole marriage has been full of infidelity and pain for me. He had a very controlling mother and was sexually abused as a child. He now has a counselor and overall is doing everything he needs to do to heal himself and me. It feels to me like every time I start doing better and making strides to heal, he starts to slip back into old patterns of behavior. Most of the time if I bring it to his attention, he can correct it himself. But there are times that he needs to see his individual counselor to correct the behavior. He is trying and working hard, but I've dealt with this for so long that I don't know if I want to keep "reminding" him how he needs to behave. His individual counselor tells him that it will take time for his brain to be rewired due to his childhood programming.