Dear Rick,

I have betrayed my wife in the worst way possible. I have had a 1 year affair with her sister over two years ago. I wanted to stop it right away but her sister threatened to tell my wife and I was too scared to tell the truth. My wife found out a year and a half ago. The affair stopped and I have zero interest in my affair partner. We have only found Affair Recovery in the last few months and I feel like the counselling we received previously wasn't helpful. I can't help but feel we've wasted value time before finding you. I love my wife and want desperately to be the man she deserves but she is ambivalent at best. She keeps trying for the kids but she won't drop her guard. She says she will never trust me again and doesn't think she even wants to do a couples weekend. I'm so confused because I love her so much but have hurt her so badly. I desperately want to change and spend the rest of our lives happy together. I can't get through to her Rick. I see the happy results from some of your other couples and I long for that but she has lost hope. There must be something still inside of her that I can awaken. There has to be hope. How do I show her there is hope? Thank you