Q&A Am I Being Used?

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My husband has not stopped the affair, and seems to be right in the thick of it. This has been going on for 1 year now but half of it he has lived back home and still lives at home now. He goes to see her every two weeks. During this year we have not been sleeping in the same bedroom. I have drawn boundaries around sexual intimacy but we have had sex several times, about once a month. We both feel slightly confused but I am confused as to the fact that he is still able to be sexual with me while having the affair partner, which he does not have the opportunity to be sexual with frequently due to time. I don't want to be used and let down my guard but also would not want to chase away opportunity for genuine connection of that nature...I am feeling at a loss as to what to do...What makes it worse is there is no cuddling after and he seems to revert back to same behavior after which indicates that he is just using me.



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