Rick,

My wife and I have been battling down the road of recovery for nearly two years now, including EMS Online that began last September. I was involved in an affair that produced a child. As my wife and I were pregnant with our second child, I began an affair with a coworker who was also married and subsequently got pregnant the same month that our second child was born. The affair ended nearly two years ago and her baby was born about a year and a half ago. Just this past week, the courts made a decision that I am to pay child support despite the fact that she is still married to her husband. My wife, who suffers from PTSD because of my infidelity, has endured numerous new traumas over the past two years based on my infidelity. It's been quite the struggle. With this latest trauma and the feared future traumatic events that may occur, she fears that divorce is the only way to truly recover from the pain that I have caused. I fear this as well. I love her and want what's going to be best for her long term healing but I don't want a divorce. Any thoughts, direction, or tips for our seemingly hopeless situation would be appreciated.