Q&A How Can I Encourage My Spouse to Engage in Healing Conversations?

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I am the unfaithful. My wife and I are still together in the same house but there is no communication. I try to talk to her and ask her questions. She will give one word answers to my questions but nothing more. If I don't try and initiate conversation, she is content with no talking at all. What suggestions can you give for engaging my wife in discussion and trying to restore some communication to begin working on our relationship?



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As a betrayed spouse, this

As a betrayed spouse, this advice doesn't sit well with me. The betrayed spouse may not be opening up and talking to the unfaithful spouse because the unfaithful spouse is not safe. I don't talk to my UH because he is not safe. We were in MC but he decided one day that he didn't like our counselor and so he decided to stop. It was my one safe place to discuss hard topics, but what now? Rick, your video has a bit of an edge to it for the betrayed spouses. What about reminding the unfaithful spouse to make sure he/she is being compassionate, giving empathy, being safe for the hurt spouse? Your tone sounds like, well, if you're not going to talk with me, I'm outta here. Not helpful.

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