My husband had a category 2 affair with a coworker that was extremely emotionally entangling. It lasted 6 months and he was very open with me the whole time, concealing almost nothing and maybe sugar-coating a few details. He was trying to scale back or break off the relationship the whole time. I saw in the harboring hope workbook that having the information revealed to the hurt spouse over a series of months can bring a real sense of hopelessness to their recovery. Could bring privy to the information AS IT WAS HAPPENING over the course of 6 months have the same effect? I am definitely fighting a great sense of hopelessness. Last contact, which did sound quite final, was this past Friday, Nov 4th.