Q&A Who Can I Talk to?

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We are around 3 months post discovery of my husband's affairs and attended EMS Weekend in August. I am still struggling with who I can tell and talk to here at home. None of my friends or family know, it is a very lonely and isolating experience. My support system is currently my EMS small group and a counselor. I feel like I still need at least one close friend to support me and pray for me, someone I knew before all this mess. My question is should I share with my best friend or not? Her and her husband are my and my husband's closest friends. I know if I share with her, it will never be the same. It may strain, burden, or possibly end the friendship. We have walked through life together for 20 years. During that time, we have had talks in small group about infidelity and what we would do if that ever happened to us. We were all very judgmental and said we would never put up with that. Of course, one never knows what one will do until it happens to them. My friend is a strong Christian and I believe she would support our intent to stay married and know that our healed marriage can bring glory to God. But, she may just get so angry with my husband for what he has done, that she can't see past that. Can you give me your perspective on sharing with her and if you feel I should, the best way to do it?



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