Q&A Do I Have All the Information Needed?

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My husband only admits to what I can prove, which is, it started 8 years ago with call girls in Vegas. It progressed to 2 rendezvous’ with ex-girlfriends while out of town on business. He denies this but an email from one asks if they "can play house for a few hours the next time he's in town." I've found emails between him and his brother comparing escorts, many unknown numbers in his phone, pictures of naked women, and a video (he admits to sex with this one after swearing he never had sex with anyone). The most recent woman he was pursuing is married. He asked her to meet him one night for a kiss. He sent her emails telling her she was perfect for him. He denies falling in love with her or meeting her for that kiss. He swears he loves me, wants to stay married, etc. but was bored and lonely. I’m so broken and grieving the loss of what we were when we were good together. He acts like it was an emotional affair, but some aspects look like addiction AND philandering. Do I keep digging? I don't feel safe. I feel if he doesn't come totally clean we'll never get the right help and he'll keep cheating. In the meantime we’re in an AR program. He’s doing more at home. I just don't feel he’s fighting hard enough for me. My self-esteem is gone and pretending to be ok so he won't lose faith is exhausting. What kind of affair was this?



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