I am a betrayed spouse. D-Day #1 was 4 months ago, though a new detail my unfaithful spouse previously lied about just came to light a few days ago. We are currently 8 weeks in to EMSO. I have also enrolled in Harboring Hope as I am having trouble accepting his betrayal. I just don’t know how to get to acceptance and have been very stuck on why, which he has yet to be able to tell me the why and I know from EMSO we may never know or understand the why. Am I expecting to be able to get to acceptance to soon? Do I just need more time to grieve? I want to get to acceptance for nothing more than being able to move on and put it behind me, but how?