My husband had an emotional affair that lasted several years with someone that he did correspond with from out of town through work. When I discovered some emails I was devastated. He also thought that since it was emotional that it wasn’t as hurtful as a physical affair. When I told him I wanted to do EMSO, his first reaction was that his affair was not as bad as some of the other men that we would correspond with. During the course there was a woman from my group whose husband had both some physical affairs and a few emotional affairs. When she talked about his affairs she said the emotional affairs are what hurts the most and started to cry. That was when my husband understood the severity of his actions. There were some chapters further on that helped him “get it.” We are 15 months out from day, and are doing well. Hang in there. There is hope.