Whats the difference between the three? Is there a test to see if I’m a love addict or something? Before the affair I was also obsessed with a childhood sweetheart for almost a decade but I never saw her after high school so it wasn’t reciprocated... yet I would write songs and poems to her, she doesn’t know, and I would think about her a lot in several stages of the marriage. Even though I’m working on my marriage and the affair that lasted 7 months ended a year and a half ago, when I think of her, I feel that was a treasure. Will I ever stop thinking and feeling that way?