Q&A Is It Possible That She Believed Her Emotional Affair Was Not Infidelity?

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My wife admits to an emotional and sexual affair from 2002 to 2005. The relationship went on, though, from 2006 to 2017, as a non skin on skin sexual affair. There was french kissing sometimes, groping over clothes, some lunch dates, saying I love you back to him. She said at the time she did know the inappropriate acts themselves were wrong but the relationship as a whole was a friendship and it did not feel wrong to be with him. She said she didn't want to kiss, didn't want to grope (he put her hand on him) but she like the lunch dates. She did looked around to make sure no one could see those acts before they happened in the car. Is it possible that she believed, then, that it was okay to go to lunch with him or is she lying to herself? I need her to own what she really thought at that time so I can forgive her.



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