Q&A How Can We Get Past This Issue?

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Hi Rick, My husband and I are currently in the EMSO course and I am in Harboring Hope. We are stuck in recovery for a few reasons and one of our fights continues to resurface over and over again (dealing with his AP at work). Do you think limerance will continue with even slight contact (them being on the same emails but not directly to and from my husband and AP or even conversations about the AP with other co-workers who bring her up because they don't know what is going on)? He says they have no contact because he doesn't count the things I just mentioned. I have heard they were over before (three times) and they continued their emotional and physical affair on and off so I am very uncomfortable with any contact whatsoever. He tells me that this time it's really over but how am I supposed to believe that? How can I feel comfortable with even this slight contact? We need something more or we will not make it. We saw a few counselors in our area several months ago but that wasn't helpful. What would you recommend as additional help? Would attending an EMS weekend while still doing EMSO be beneficial? Would that just be doing the same thing twice? Do you have phone counseling sessions that are effective? We can't find an infidelity specialist in our area. Any other recommendations? Thank you!

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