Dear Rick, I am really struggling with the EMS online. It seems the recovery program as well as the written materials are directed toward men who have been unfaithful to their wives. As an unfaithful wife, I am finding the recovery process very different from that of the other couples. My husband rarely floods, he says he really doesn't have any triggers, and he prefers to just move on now that the affair is over. He never brings it up. I am the one who struggles with reminders and triggers. I am the one who feels the need to hash things out, and I am the one who is struggling with anger and resentment. Everything seems reversed. How are we to build a stronger marriage when nothing is really being addressed?