I'm struggling to deal with the issue of relapse. I entered into Christian counselling with a male counselor and wound up in a 10-month online emotional affair with the counselor that included sexting and phone sex. At the time, I was emotionally and physically estranged from my husband and had been a victim of emotional abuse for many years and consequently I had a lot of unmet emotional needs, but my husband and I were in the beginning stages of reconciliation. I have taken responsibility for the affair and we are now in EMS Online. I am struggling to come up with a list of high risk situations and activating behaviors that might lead to relapse. I feel my situation is very unique and yet I don't want to minimize the affair or my culpability. My husband wants a list and the course work requires a list but in my mind it's simply that I put my guards down for counselling, was vulnerable and taken advantage of by a counselor. I'm so confused.