Q&A How do I Forgive a Lifetime of Infidelity?

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My husband has been unfaithful basically since we began seeing each other. I was married with a toddler and pregnant, age 17 when we met. I engaged in an 8 month affair with him that ended with me leaving, and divorcing. We were married 3 years later. We've now been married 25 years. Months after our first D-day (July 2015) with his confession of an affair with coworker that lasted 3-4 years off and on, he admitted to an ongoing sexual relationship that began before we married. It lasted years (no idea how many), supposedly only engaging (for oral sex usually) once or twice a year. He's had (admittedly) numerous female friends over the years that he chose to spend time with that would come on to him, flirt, make him feel good. He claims no sexual contact with all these women, although I'm pretty certain of one emotional (at least) affair with a different coworker 15 years or more ago. I want my marriage. I want my husband. But I'm unsure how to scrap our entire marriage and start new. My husband is remorseful, empathetic. I know he loves me, I love him. Can we start new? How do I forgive a lifetime of deceit?



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