Q&A How Do I Handle My Husband's Response to the Truth in Love Exercise?

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My husband and I are in Married for life. As a group, we were discussing the Truth in Love exercise. I, personally, have a desire to respond to my husband's truth in love when he's done but he finds it disrespectful. He told our group that he believes it should be like an actor receiving feedback from a director... you just take the feedback and go make the changes with no response. I feel that an actor/director relationship is nothing like a marriage should be. It has no love, no desire for understanding, or to be understood. It's not mutual. One is dictating to the other and the other has no voice or opinion. I'm really stunned and sad by this. This came about as we discussed how to correctly respond to misunderstandings within the truth in love exercise, when you're not able to discuss things normally without fighting. How do you respond respectfully? Do you make a note of it and include it your own amends section of your own truth in love another time? Or is my husband correct that I should never respond, just take note and make the changes he says. Just saying that feels so impersonal, unloving, and wrong... but I'm not a man.



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