Q&A How Do I Move Forward after Betrayal and Divorce?

My husband left for his affair partner back in Nov. 2016 and we are going through the divorce process. I don't want to start dating right away. My question is on moving forward. 1) how do,I trust the next person and how can I tell upfront if they are a person that will not cheat? 2) how do I trust myself to make the right decision? After being with the same person for 20 + years, I do not want to date many men and I don't want to marry again right away because I feel like I still need to work on myself and I could not go through this again. I trusted my husband 110% and that took, at least a decade. I do understand you need to take a leap of faith; I just have no idea on how long it will take me to get over my husband. I actually feel sick when some suggest dating or I think about someone else getting close to me or kissing me. Any suggestion would help tremendously.