Unfortunately your husband failed to protect you, so it’s a natural inclination to have the need to protect yourself. After my husband’s affair, a one night stand with a much younger woman, was discovered, I made him use condoms. Unfortunately 3 months in, one broke. Read up on STD’s/STI’s. Arm yourself with knowledge. Remove that control from your husband at this time. It’s okay to protect yourself, in fact, it’s neglect if you don’t. Sadly, it’s more likely we’ll all contract HPV in some form or another if nothing else. Make your husband have routine HIV testing and you be consistent to follow up with a reputable OB/Gyn. Get tested for HPV every year with your PAP test as it is transmitted by skin to skin contact and impossible to test men for. I’m sorry for your fear. You’re not alone.