My husband and I were both unfaithful to one another when we were younger. We split up about 7 years ago and during this time I was with many people. When we got married I thought I was doing the right thing by keeping all that information hid and even lied to him about it. This all came out this past October and he is devastated by it, rightfully so. I am trying really hard to be safe and do all the things I need to do for him but often times I am not as patient as I should be and he feels I am unsafe. I also feel he is unsafe. we are working hard to fix our communication issues however, with neither of us feeling safe its very hard to communicate and heal.