Why is so little ever said about the AP and how we should deal with our emotions towards the AP? Both my husband's APs were friends of mine; I had known the one for 32 years of my 36 year life. They also betrayed me. They actively participated in destroying my life. Because of them my belief in humanity and trust in the safety of friendship have been shattered. I want to tell them how I feel, what they have done. I want to know what they have to say for themselves. Just like disclosure with my husband is required for me to move forward and heal, I feel that disclosure by them is also required for my healing. Although I have no intention of salvaging those relationships, I feel I must know and understand to have healthy relationships with people going forward.