About 6 months ago, before our first D-Day, one of my husband’s AP’s gave him a reference for a new job. I would later learn that he was working on a team with her and five other single women (an unusual dynamic for information technology.) They work in a large corporate environment with high-level building security. Since my husband’s affairs took place during work, this causes me great anxiety. I cannot even drop by during the workday unless I call ahead to start a series of authorizations, badges, escorts, etc. to gain entry. It's like setting off a 'wife alert". I hate the level of “affair protection” this atmosphere offers.