Q&A How Do We Move Safely from Here in the Presence of a Restraining Order?

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2 years from D-Day - more since; more to come. Pursuing full discovery led to fighting - physically more than once. I asked for separation, he refused. I got a restraining order 2 months ago allowing him to call/text to hopefully work on our issues. Constant hateful messages felt badgering, oppressive, and never productive so I stopped. We agreed our counselor's could communicate to get us to able to counsel together. He stopped that. I have no idea where he's at mentally. I don't feel safe being in the same room How do we move forward? I've filed for divorce. He has shown he is more willing to hurt me than face who he is. There is no communication between us at the moment. He will soon have supervised visitation with our 5 children. I'm continuing counseling, and I believe he has as well. I'm still putting all the puzzle pieces together, and feel the need to vent and express to him. I'm not sure how to process these emotions. My counselor recommends venting on a walk, when alone or with a friend. I've been leaving him voice texts when I can't stand it anymore, but it's unfair to do so since he is unable to reply without going to jail. Please help me find a way to move forward. We've been married for 26 years this July.

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