D-Day was 2 years ago. We are definitely better than we were and I’m encouraged by improvement. We often really enjoy one another and are back to normal. But at least once a week my husband gets angry, distant and upset. It’s 24 hours of arguing, anger and disappointment. I have done nothing but work hard to atone for my affair. I’m an open book, very honest and open and we go to counselor and read books and are taking EMS course. My husband just can’t seem to get past this. He seems to perpetually believe this has to mean something. I do not love my affair partner and want to be here. Are there some people who just refuse to move past this? People who just refuse to let it go despite all the positive progress that is made? He says he definitely loves me and wants us together. Why won’t he just stop the insanity?