I am so glad you asked this question. You are so courageous. I have too been struggling with dealing with my healing and having to comfort him. I feel that in this process you have to comfort each other, but to a certain point. I did have to tell my husband that I couldn’t do it all the time and that he needed to seek help for himself. I have been having to heal with the trauma of finding out of his betrayal in January that he had been unfaithful to me in October and then later finding out he had first betrayed me ten years ago was devastating. He struggles to disclose on his own all of what he has done. I have found out all of his betrayals on my own and after I confront him he seems to feel so much shame and pain and tells me I would be better off without me and that he could not live without me if I left him. I have had to explain to him that God is the only one that can take our lives. I have found much comfort in knowing that God can heal me by giving the strength to seek help through affair recovery. I believe God has heard my prayers when I found out about Harboring hope and hope for healing. I am waiting to attend the conference and my husband has already signed up for the Harboring Hope course. I pray for each and one of us that has been betrayed by our spouse and for the betrayers as well. God created marriage and I know He wants us to continue in our relationship but as new creations through Jesus Christ. I pray that our hearts heal and continue to fight against the works of the enemy to destroy our families. God will make us stronger. I have faith in Him that it will happen. I find most comfort through Him. I know He will bring healing to us all. Thanks again for your question. I know I am not the only to go through such trauma. May God bring you hapiness and peace and strength to overcome it all! God Bless.

I am so glad you asked this question. You are so courageous. I have too been struggling with dealing with my healing and having to comfort him. I feel that in this process you have to comfort each other, but to a certain point. I did have to tell my husband that I couldn’t do it all the time and that he needed to seek help for himself. I have been having to heal with the trauma of finding out of his betrayal in January that he had been unfaithful to me in October and then later finding out he had first betrayed me ten years ago was devastating. He struggles to disclose on his own all of what he has done. I have found out all of his betrayals on my own and after I confront him he seems to feel so much shame and pain and tells me I would be better off without me and that he could not live without me if I left him. I have had to explain to him that God is the only one that can take our lives. I have found much comfort in knowing that God can heal me by giving the strength to seek help through affair recovery. I believe God has heard my prayers when I found out about Harboring hope and hope for healing. I am waiting to attend the conference and my husband has already signed up for the Harboring Hope course. I pray for each and one of us that has been betrayed by our spouse and for the betrayers as well. God created marriage and I know He wants us to continue in our relationship but as new creations through Jesus Christ. I pray that our hearts heal and continue to fight against the works of the enemy to destroy our families. God will make us stronger. I have faith in Him that it will happen. I find most comfort through Him. I know He will bring healing to us all. Thanks again for your question. I know I am not the only to go through such trauma. May God bring you hapiness and peace and strength to overcome it all! God Bless.