Q&A Is It Wrong to Avoid Contact with In-Laws since My Wayward Husband Villainized Me to Them?

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My husband villainized me to my In-Laws and painted himself as innocent instead of confessing the affair. It has been almost 2 months since d-day. The days preceding d-day were filled with lies from my husband to me and his parents regarding the relationship with the affair partner. He claimed they were just friends and I was the one blowing things out of proportion and playing mind games. He has confessed the affair to me but not to them, letting me remain in their eyes, the crazy wife causing all this turmoil for the family. Now I'm embarrassed to face them even though I haven't done anything wrong. Is it normal to feel this way? Should my husband be honest with them and clear my name since I was only reacting to the evidence that was in front of me that clearly reflected an intimate relationship with the affair partner? If so, can you recommend the best way to communicate this to him? I know this may sound strange, but this bothers me almost as much as the affair.

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My husband was entangled in an emotional affair and my d day was Nov 23, 2019. He pretends everything fine around in laws but it’s uncomfortable and come to find out he was deflecting and blaming me and others. I wish I could call my in laws and tell them everything.