Hi Rick, So I am the betrayer and I need help on showing my husband that I'm working on this just as hard and harder than I've ever worked on anything. He is completely devastated from what I did; understandably, he's tormented all day by intrusive thoughts and even all night in bad dreams. So obviously I want to do everything I can to help!! We've done a little counseling, we're signed up to do EMS weekend and I'm trying to get into hope for healing. I've read books and articles your website has helped tremendously, but I'm looking for things to do or say on a day to day basis, things to show him I’m thinking about him concerned about him and care about him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!