Q&A Should I Allow My Husband to Choose His Polygrapher?

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My husband recently failed the polygraph. He says that everything is out but the polygrapher did it 3 times in the session and he clearly failed each time. We almost cancelled that day as my husband only wrote out his disclosure the night before and the day before found out that his dad had affairs on his mom when he was a child. He was shook up about those so I'm not sure if those had anything to do with failing the polygraph. My husband plans to do another one but felt that the polygrapher was intimidating and asked questions that were not related to infidelity such as if he pursued any relatives including his brother and sister. He said he felt like he was treated as a criminal or sex offender. I was not in the room during the session. However, the polygrapher is quite experienced. In my opinion, he seemed tough but fair. So the dilemma is, my husband refuses to go back to the same polygrapher. At first I had no problem with that but then my counselor thinks he should since she knows this particular polygrapher is good at his job. Should I press for my husband to use him or just allow him to choose another polygrapher? This had halted some healing and forward motion in our marriage. Also considering separation should he not pass again.

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