Q&A Should I Consider Separation?

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My husband and I have been married for 16 years. D-Day was December 2015, when he confessed to an affair with a female co-worker that developed on business trips. Through EMSO, his years of pornography addiction also came to light. He was sincerely repentant after D-Day, and our relationship was stronger than ever throughout EMSO. However, we did not stay with our Married for Life group long since they left the curriculum to study a book we weren’t comfortable with. Our relationship has progressively returned to the way it was, and he has returned to all of his old, destructive patterns of shutting-down hostile mode with me, hypercritical toward me about everything I do, not giving me business itinerary, changing his phone password and refusing to give it to me, going out to dinner with female coworker alone on business trip despite our plan on how to avoid those situations, telling me to leave, etc. We have 4 young children, and I left my career 2 years ago to devote myself full-time to marriage and kids. Getting my career back will take significant amount of studying and shadowing. I am seeing a counselor, and we have seen one together, but to no avail. Should I consider him unsafe, and consider separation?



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